The short answer is yes, many of us do. The next question is why some women experience a symptomless menopause and others (the majority) experience many symptoms during perimenopause and menopause. And what can you do if you are already experiencing some unpleasant symptoms? Can you improve? Yes, you can, and it is not difficult or expensive and you do not have to join a cult.
Most women who do not experience a bad perimenopause and menopause share some attributes and it does not look to be a genetic thing. The attribute most of these women share is a healthish, happish life. It is not necessarily super healthy or super happy. Many women who are experiencing perimenopause and menopause symptoms can benefit by copying “our secrets.”
Let me start by saying that there are some symptoms, but they are fewer and not severe. For example I started to gain weight and my body shape changed (but I stopped it), other women experience lack of sleep, depression, etc., these symptoms are not as bad or as many as in most women.
It is not difficult to avoid most of the perimenopausal and menopausal symptoms and I am going to tell you some the most important things you can do to avoid them. This is not a complete list, but I think it includes the most important aspects.
What you eat
Model Christie Brinkley is a lacto-vegetarian. She has a very active life, but nothing crazy. She has said that her menopause was painless. I have a friend who eats very healthy, but eats everything and works out moderately; she did not experience any bad symptoms. I know many other women who follow different types of diets and their menopause has been good. I am a fishetarian (or pesco vegetarian), a vegetarian who eats fish occasionally. So there is no one diet, but most of us eat a healthy diet without processed foods and rich in nutrients. Read Menopause and microbiome
An active life is important but most of us are not gym rats or super fit.
A happy, healthy attitude is important, but life does not need to be perfect. What matters is the attitude.
Some of us take supplements and vitamins, but not all of us. I rotate supplements, right now it is a multivitamin, omega 3, K2, calcium, magnesium, liver support and adrenal support. The adrenal and the liver support are not permanent and sometimes I take a thyroid support supplement.
More about the food
A woman like me who does not experience bad symptoms during menopause or perimenopause can be healthy vegan, a healthy vegetarian, a healthy omnivore, a healthy Paleo, Keto or other. The key here is to eat healthy.
Eating healthy means different things to different people. These are the most important aspects of a healthy diet during perimenopause and menopause:
The first characteristic is that the food has to be nutrient-rich. Many women in our age bracket have a mineral deficiency and they may be low in some vitamins. This is not about protein, it is about minerals and vitamins and most of them are in fruits and vegetables.
We need good fats.
Do not go on a low fat diet at this time of your life; your liver needs good fats. Avocados, nuts, good quality olive oil, good quality coconut oil, high quality butter (pasture raised and organic) and high quality, preferably fermented ghee.
Fresh and home made
When we eat out a lot we are eating low quality foods with lots of salt, bad fats and artificial ingredients. Processed foods are worse, they have all of the above and even more salt and ingredients that are not found in nature and many of them lack natural nutrients.
Lower the sugar
This is super important. I am not saying eliminate it, because that is difficult, but at least lower it to the lowest level possible without creating stress. Sugar is not only in sugar, but pastas and breads are processed like sugar in the body. All of those ingredients need to be consumed in moderation. Sugar alters insulin and this causes major hormonal imbalances in the body. You can eat whole grains and preferably as a grain and not as a flour. You can also have healthy normal bread in moderation.
Try to eat during a 12 hour or less window. Your body, especially your liver, need time to process food and eliminate toxins.
Worry, stress, frustrations etc. have a very important effect on hormones. We can eat super healthy and become sick if our emotions are negative.
If we have a negative views of menopause or aging, we are more inclined to get bad symptoms.
This is a big topic but in general avoid environmental risks such as candles and fragrances with artificial ingredients. Prefer essential oil burners or diffusers. Avoid anything that smells of plastic. Choose natural cleaning products.
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